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Sexual Sin

Carl — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:02:29 +0000

Is sexual sin really the issue, or does it go deeper? “How should Christian men and women go about breaking free from the bondage of sexual sin?” is the fifth question posed to Pastor Mark Driscoll, as he continues preaching in Religion Saves: And Nine Other Misconceptions.

true friendship between a guy and girl

meg_2013 — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 02:42:19 +0000

I can’t believe that I found the best friend everyone should have! With me being a female you would assume that it is another female. But it is not. With in the past year I have been getting closer with one of my male friends. At first it was just me trying to become better friends with him, but slowly and without me really noticing I started to fall for this guy. At first I denied it with everything that was in me. So much so that I was chatting with him on facebook and I just kind of said it straight out that I didn’t want to hurt him or lead him on if I was that I didn’t like him in any special way. But I just couldn’t help the way I was feeling for this guy. So, another night, not long after our first discussion, I laid everything out on the table. I was so terrified that it would ruin our friendship and that he wouldn’t like me back. Well after I told him how I truly felt about him everything was still the same. We still chatted when we were both on facebook. Things weren’t awkward and he had told me that he really didn’t know how he felt, to be honest that was probably what I needed to hear. Just within the last week we have been chatting almost every night. It is has been great. We have come to the conclusion that with the circumstances that we are under, being he lives basically 3 hours away and is going to school in Grand Rapids, and I am going to school in Rochester Hills, we will probably never be in a ‘relationship’. But we know so much about each other, or at least I feel as if I have learned so much about and from him just in the past week. He is truly my BEST FRIEND! I am so thankful that after being completely honest with him that he is still my friend, and I am glad that he was honest with me about the possibility of an ‘us’. He is just the greatest guy in the world, and I am going to let my head get straight so that way I can realize that he will always be my friend, and that one day he will find his Beautiful Maiden and I will find my Knight in Shining Armour! We have this knowing of each other that if we have ‘ANYTHING’ that we want to talk about then we can. There is no awkwardness within it, unless you are chatting at 2:30 in the morning and so tired that your thoughts aren’t making any sense. Or at least you think they aren’t making sense! = )

Just remember that every person is worthy of being a friend… but, you need to find your one true friend that you can talk to. Guy or girl, it doesn’t matter. I found mine, he is wonderful!

you are the best JCB2

Look before you leap.

anonymousSolider — Fri, 21 May 2010 20:07:14 +0000

There is a woman who’s heart I just broke. I had met the young lady when I was in total rebound mode after walking away from Tina some time ago. Same mistake I made with my now ex-fiance that I had met after Tina had dumped me for another man.

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Tina and I had two rounds together. The first time she left me, the second and final time I walked away from her. In Between the two was my fiance. I met her through a mutual friend of Tina’s and within two weeks of meeting the fiance we were engaged. Total rebound stuff.

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This other woman and I talked for a very short period, about two weeks I believe, then I broke it off. Or so I thought. She held on while I tried to move on and recover from the second round with Tina. She remained persistent while I tried to tell her in the nicest way possible that it just wasn’t going to work out between us. I knew something was seriously wrong when one day she proposed to me over the phone and we hadn’t even met face to face! (Still haven’t for that matter)

Now wait just a minute! I know that I have said that I have desired a wife and family then suddenly here is this chick throwing herself at me. So why didn’t I take it? Well, for starters, as mentioned before, I have already been engaged once. That relationship was extremely horrible, and while God did make good come from it, as I learned a lot from it, it was a hastily done thing. Getting engaged with someone only two weeks after meeting them is a BIG mistake.

(yes, I had fun with all the fancy formatting and you shall see more of it in the future of this document)

Ladies, heed these words, get to know the guy before you marry him. Seriously, he might say the right things, touch you right and give you the attention you crave and desire, BUT GET TO KNOW THE GUY BEFORE YOU MARRY HIM! I was in rehab with a guy who raped his own wife…

And the same for you guys, get to know her before you take that leap. Because, lets face it, it is a big leap and it is something that is supposed to last a life time. And another thing guys, LEARN TO TREAT YOUR WOMEN LIKE WOMEN and love them like Christ loves his Church. Women are human too, you know, and have thoughts feelings and emotions just like you do. And if she is a virgin and saving her self for marriage, RESPECT IT. That is a huge thing for a woman and giving it up to a jerk is a big emotional blow to them.

Women, heed these words once again. If your man is treating you like dirt and lays down the ultimatum and says something to the effect of, “put out of get out,” or, “If you don’t give me some I will find someone who will.” Reply with these words ladies, “Don’t let the door hit you in the *** on the way out! If you want this you are just going to have to wait.” Let those boy’s go ladies; any man that wants to hit you, degrade you, and force you to do something that you don’t want to do doesn’t deserve you. So send them packing! It will hurt at first, yes, but trust me, God will bring someone else around that is better in due time. Women remember, YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT IS IN BETWEEN YOUR LEGS!! Do not think of yourself as an object or a piece of meat because YOU ARE NOT. Real men wait ladies, and if a man really loves you, he will wait for you. Period, end of story.

I am Cinderella

Beth — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 04:02:48 +0000

“She’s pulling at me,
Saying ‘Dad, I need you, There’s a ball at the castle and I’ve been invited and I need to practice my dancing. Oh, please, Daddy, please?’
So I will dance with Cinderella
While she is here in my arms.”
Cinderella by Steven Curtis Chapman
—

I was that princess once. I was 3, and my dad had taught me how to ride a tricycle.
I don’t remember another time of being my dad’s little princess.

My dad left when I was 5.
I was okay with it at the time, as he was never home to begin with.

Now that I’m older, there is that hole left by my dad that I have so much trouble trying to fill.

“I count on the make-up to cover it all
Crying myself to sleep cause I cannot keep their attention
I thought I could be strong
But it’s killing me
Does someone hear my cry?
I’m dying for new life”
Beautiful by Bethany Dillon

Desperate. That’s what it was. That’s what I became.
Desperate for the attention I didn’t have, didn’t know I had.

Any guy that looked my way. Any “hey” or conversation and I was “head over heels” for him. This attracted me to the wrong type of guys. The dangerous type. Soon, I was in a relationship, that was a mistake from the start. I fell “in love” in 2 weeks. 7 months later, I was being accused of cheating because I wanted to hang out with my friends. 2 months and 2 black eyes later, I finally was out of the abusive distress I was in for so long.
Why didn’t I end it sooner? Fear. I was so scared of him, it ate me from the inside out.

I hadn’t been to church in about 5 months because of him, and I finally started going back, and got back involved in 531, and my life group. I was being healed by my accountability partners, and prayer partners. God was really moving in my life. I was finally to this place of, “I don’t need a guy to complete me.”

Around May of 2008, I got into another relationship. A deeper, more serious relationship. He was 2 years older and in college. So, there was a huge time gap between us, and a lot of maturity problems. Parts of that relationship I absolutely will never want to forget, and I still thank him for. But the relationship wasn’t perfect. We fought a lot. We made many mistakes in the relationship. We both said many things we didn’t mean, and we were no where spiritually where we should have been. The ending was a disaster. I was happy and upset that it ended, in that, I really do believe, I loved him. Or what I believed to be love at the time.

More guys I tried to depend on, tried to have accept me, tried to make like me.

Then…something finally…clicked! Seriously almost like a switch in my head went to the ON position.

I didn’t need a guy to make me happy!
I didn’t need a relationship, or someone to text constantly to fill me up!

I needed God. The love of my FATHER! The love of my KING!
God made me the princess I had so longed to be my entire life!
God made me beautiful. God filled that void that I used almost ANYTHING to fill.
God brought me out of a desperate for guys attention phase into a desperate for HIM place!

Every now and then, Satan tries to control my mind and tell me that I do need someone, that I can’t be alone, that I’m not beautiful, that I’m not worth anything.
But, I remember the role God plays in my life, and remember that God is more than enough, and God is ALL I EVER NEED and all those thoughts vanish just as fast as they were brought about.

So, I am that princess after all. I am daddy’s little girl.

“You make me beautiful. You make me stand in awe, You look inside my heart and I am amazed. I love to hear you say, who I am is quite enough, You make me worthy of love and beautiful.”
Beautiful by Bethany Dillon

God is all you need.

Sex, Alcohol, Lust, Drugs, Porn, Gossip, Jealousy, Money, etc. WILL NOT FILL YOU UP!
God is everything and more!

God IS everything and more.

And He will ALWAYS love you. No matter what.
He will Always, always, always love you.

No. Matter. What.

Confused!?!?!

krote07 — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:16:40 +0000

Why is dating such a pain? Trying to find a GODLY man, seems like it’s impossible.

I think I have my standards way to high!!!

A man IN LOVE with GOD
in school, or financially stable
No DRINKING or SMOKING or DIPPING ICK!!!
Someone in love with sports as much as I am.
Someone who is going to love me for me
Someone who wants to have fun
Someone GOOD looking

Is that too high????? or is there a such thing as setting your standards to high????