Why is dating such a pain? Trying to find a GODLY man, seems like it’s impossible.
I think I have my standards way to high!!!
- A man IN LOVE with GOD
- in school, or financially stable
- No DRINKING or SMOKING or DIPPING ICK!!!
- Someone in love with sports as much as I am.
- Someone who is going to love me for me
- Someone who wants to have fun
- Someone GOOD looking
Is that too high????? or is there a such thing as setting your standards to high????
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Nah, they’re not too high. I think that the reason we often end up with the wrong person is b/c when we don’t find what fits our hopes, we lower our standards.
I’d come to realize that (just about) every lasting relationship starts off with 2 friends first. If it should turn into something more down the line, then it will, but at least as friends, you’ll know in advance if you can get along other than romantically, which is very needed in a marriage.
I also learned that one usually finds the best relationships when one’s not looking for one. For example, I met my the woman who’d become my wife when I wasn’t looking for her.
The greatest part about our meeting was that it was the Lord who introduced us. I was living in a new location for a job in a small town, looking for female friends online (dating sites, etc., but making it a point to say that I was looking for just friends to start out with). Being a Pastor turned out to act like the plague when it came to meeting most people online, which kept me looking at other sites for friends. And my (now) wife was looking for guys for her sister, not herself.
But as for standards, what caught my attention about her is that her profile (relationship with Jesus, no smoking/drinking, faith, stances and opinions on certain topics, and the way she worded her comments) were almost exact to mine! It just blew me away, and I decided I had to meet her (even though we were on opposite sides of the globe).
See, when I searched for somebody on my own, I always ended up with somebody who wasn’t perfectly right for me. The Lord introduced my wife and me to each other, and she’s PERFECT for me (and vice-versa). Only God could do that, and He did.
So don’t lower your standards. Those are what you want and the Lord knows what you need. Just continue to trust that He has somebody already picked out, and that when the time is ready, He will introduce you to him.
The site we met on was a Christian-singles site (now called “ChristianMingle.com”).
thanks sooo much for the in sight
When ever we have single’s seminars at church, this question always come up. So I know that you are not alone in wondering this. Before I give my point of very, let me back up and ask “What is dating?” Dating is not addressed in the Bible, but for the believer, dating is simply friendship building. You meet a person and build a great friendship. If that friendship leads to a relationship and marriage….great. If not, that’s ok…you’ve still got a great friend.
I know for a fact that many people miss out on having great friendships (that could turn into relationships) because the person didn’t meet all of their list “requirements.” “Requirement” lists are not really fair because they assume that who a person is now is who they will always be. Friendships, on the other hand, give people room to grow and change.
I don’t think your standards are to high…they are all just sub-points of list item #1. If a man loves GOD, he will know how to love you for you. He will take an interest in the things that you love (sport, fun). He’ll know that his body is a temple and abstain from drugs and alcohol. So get out there and build some great friendships! Out of that, you will meet a great guy. And don’t focus so hard on the destination (marriage), just enjoy the journey (friendship)! Hope this helps!
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