Look before you leap.

There is a woman who’s heart I just broke. I had met the young lady when I was in total rebound mode after walking away from Tina some time ago. Same mistake I made with my now ex-fiance that I had met after Tina had dumped me for another man.

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Tina and I had two rounds together. The first time she left me, the second and final time I walked away from her. In Between the two was my fiance. I met her through a mutual friend of Tina’s and within two weeks of meeting the fiance we were engaged. Total rebound stuff.

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This other woman and I talked for a very short period, about two weeks I believe, then I broke it off. Or so I thought. She held on while I tried to move on and recover from the second round with Tina. She remained persistent while I tried to tell her in the nicest way possible that it just wasn’t going to work out between us. I knew something was seriously wrong when one day she proposed to me over the phone and we hadn’t even met face to face! (Still haven’t for that matter)

Now wait just a minute! I know that I have said that I have desired a wife and family then suddenly here is this chick throwing herself at me. So why didn’t I take it? Well, for starters, as mentioned before, I have already been engaged once. That relationship was extremely horrible, and while God did make good come from it, as I learned a lot from it, it was a hastily done thing. Getting engaged with someone only two weeks after meeting them is a BIG mistake.

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Ladies, heed these words, get to know the guy before you marry him. Seriously, he might say the right things, touch you right and give you the attention you crave and desire, BUT GET TO KNOW THE GUY BEFORE YOU MARRY HIM! I was in rehab with a guy who raped his own wife…

And the same for you guys, get to know her before you take that leap. Because, lets face it, it is a big leap and it is something that is supposed to last a life time. And another thing guys, LEARN TO TREAT YOUR WOMEN LIKE WOMEN and love them like Christ loves his Church. Women are human too, you know, and have thoughts feelings and emotions just like you do. And if she is a virgin and saving her self for marriage, RESPECT IT. That is a huge thing for a woman and giving it up to a jerk is a big emotional blow to them.

Women, heed these words once again. If your man is treating you like dirt and lays down the ultimatum and says something to  the effect of, “put out of get out,” or, “If you don’t give me some I will find someone who will.” Reply with these words ladies, “Don’t let the door hit you in the *** on the way out! If you want this you are just going to have to wait.” Let those boy’s go ladies; any man that wants to hit you, degrade you, and force you to do something that you don’t want to do doesn’t deserve you. So send them packing! It will hurt at first, yes, but trust me, God will bring someone else around that is better in due time. Women remember, YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT IS IN BETWEEN YOUR LEGS!! Do not think of yourself as an object or a piece of meat because YOU ARE NOT. Real men wait ladies, and if a man really loves you, he will wait for you. Period, end of story.